Beware of soulish love. It is not love. It is carnal and of the flesh. It becomes an idol and will seek to exalt itself over God. It is based on "emotions" and "feelings." When the "feelings" of love have run it's course, it will leave you empty. In the end it will destroy you.
Love deposits, it does not take. Love does not make demands. Love is gentle, it does not consume. Love is free and you do not have to fight to keep it. No man (or woman) is your savior.
You may be in a soulish love relationship if:
you are fearful of losing the person
you cannot be honest about your feelings
you feel controlled, or seek to control
you feel shame
you compromise integrity and purity
it is more about them (or you) than it is about honoring God
forgiveness is not easily offered or accepted
after the passion ran it's course, there is no other foundation
Do NOT hold onto this person. Let them go! Repent and ask God to forgive you for your part in creating this relationship/tie. Then seek healing and understanding.
In His love there is no fear. There is never shame, pressure, or accusation. The imperfect you is always accepted in His perfect love.
Be Free & Stay Free
A love lost is never easy. The depth of the wound can shake you to the core. You are faced with the reality the dreams you shared will not come to pass; at least not together. The place in your heart that was occupied by the one person, is now vacant. And everyday is a struggle to retrain your mind to not think about them, to plan without them, to let the chapter close. It is hard to imagine this death of a relationship will ever bring forth new life.
Remember, God is always close to the brokenhearted. He will bind up your wounds and bring healing. This time of grieving is temporal. Do not stay there. Though it may feel like it, your grief will not swallow you up. Reach your hand out and call on Him Who truly loves you and will never forsake you.
Do not seek to cast blame, take what was good and leave what was not behind. Walk in forgiveness. We are human; unfortunately in our humanity we do cause, and experience, hurt. Do not seek to self medicate the pain you are feeling. Take it to the Lord. Let Him minister to you through intimate relationship with Him. Only then will you find the healing, wholeness, comfort, forgiveness, and release.
The place reserved just for Him cannot be filled with another and He will never vacate it.
This too shall pass. You will laugh again, you will trust again, and you will love again. You are worthy of love.
Let your eyes be upon Him, take refuge in Him, and He will not leave your soul destitute.
Psalm 141:8
Be Free & Stay Free
Do you find yourself in one failed relationship after another? Do you enter into each new relationship with high hopes and rose-colored-heart shaped-glasses; only to leave feeling more empty?
In the beginning did he say all the "right things" and even though you wrestled with the thought of "I heard this before" you ignored the red-flags, because you wanted it to be different this time.
If you find yourself falling for the same lies repeatedly it may mean that you have not broken ties. Over active imagination, 'romanticizing', gives way for the deception to wreak havoc on your mind, body and soul. Deception is the tool of the devil. It comes in many forms and can make itself very attractive, you don't even recognize it. If you are a born-again Christian, listen to His Spirit lead you and you will not be deceived.
One of the ways soul ties are formed is through intercourse. Within marriage, this is a holy tie. Outside of marriage it is sin and it will destroy you.
Are you tired of the rollercoaster of relationships? Then get off the ride! Repent! Renounce all sexual activity outside of marriage. You were not making love, you were fornicating. Do not be deceived, you cannot afford the cost of prostituting yourself.
This may sound harsh. You may even argue "but we love each other." I tell you, the One who truly loves you says "repent and do not look back."
When you have been delivered, don't go back. It is a hindrance to your spiritual growth and it will lead to death.
Matthew 12:43-45 says, "When an unclean spirit goes out of a man, he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none. Then he says, 'I will return to my house which I came.' And when he comes, he finds it empty, swept, and put in order. Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man is worse than the first...
I tell you again, DO NOT BE DECEIVED, the devil is crafty. Repent and do not turn back. The next time that familiar spirit comes knocking, do not answer the door. When he shows up carrying flowers and speaking those smooth words with flattery and empty promises, slam that door shut!
Clean your house and fill it with His Holy Spirit. Let Him answer the door and if He approves then He will tell you. The next time you feel that red flag, that warning, even if you can't quite put your finger on it, take it to the Lord. There is no confusion with God. If you have no peace, then He is not in it.
Be Free & Stay Free
